The Reasons You're Not Gonna Commit Suicide

Suicide is never easy to discuss, but talking about it may save some lives. So if because of these blogs, one person is saved from suicide, it will be well worth it—especially if that person is you.
I’m amazed at the many powerful and wise comments I have received from some great guys about suicide. Last week, I asked some of my friends to tell me why you think people contemplate suicide and they had some amazing insights. It’s clear that it’s usually not just one thing that compels someone to feel suicidal.They said it’s a combination of a lot of things, including:

pain

loneliness

rejection

abuse

deep sadness

guilt

depression

helplessness

More than anything, I believe people who commit suicide feel hopeless. They are hurting so badly and want the pain to end, but they can’t imagine it ever going away. They can’t see the light at the end of a very dark, lonely tunnel. Have you ever felt this way?

When a person’s thoughts get so negative, about their circumstances or even about themselves, they can’t find a reason to live. They think their problems are unsolvable and they feel completely out of control. I believe first and foremost, hopelessness is a serious spiritual problem rooted in lies and incorrect logic. Anytime you believe lies about yourself, you’re listening to the wrong voices.

   People who commit suicide think their problems are unsolvable and they feel completely out of control.

 Jennifer said suicide has been a daily struggle for the past nine years due to being sexually abused. “I feel like suicide is the only option I have left, the only chance at peace I’ll ever have. It’s as if something will always be missing and life will never be quite right.” There’s no denying that the pain of sexual abuse is tremendous. But the abuse is not Jennifer’s fault. She’s the victim, but she doesn’t have to take the punishment that is due to her abuser. Additionally, the world is filled with thousands of people who have survived and overcame abuse they have suffered. Jennifer, you can be one of them!
Have you ever gone through something so painful you were convinced the pain was never going to go away? Many people who contemplate suicide say something like:“I don’t want to die. I just want the pain to go away.” They think, “Because I’m in intense pain today, I will always be in pain.” It’s this incorrect logic that leads many people down the horrific path of suicide. As long as you have a breath, there is always room for hope.

As long as you have a breath, there is always room for hope.

For a person who wants to commit suicide, the fear of the unknown in death is less than the fear of living with pain for the rest of their lives. Suicide seems to be the ultimate escape—the ultimate pain-reliever. But as someone said once, “Suicide is too much medicine for the sickness.”

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Bob wrote: “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. My temporary problems never seem to end, but one day they might, or I might learn to handle them, and that’s what I put my hope in.”

    "The truth is: Pain is temporary. Suicide is forever"

Kas wrote: “I think about suicide pretty much every second of the day. It seems like it’s my only choice anymore. I know it’s not the answer, but at times I just feel like I can’t move on with this life anymore.”

You are worth so much more than just being a quitter.

When you start to think suicide is the only option, you are incorrect. That’s convoluted thinking, which also gets magnified if you’re using alcohol or drugs. Some people try to escape their pain by cutting, doing drugs, drinking alcohol, etc. In the end, these all fail—they never address the actual root of the pain, they only temporarily cover it up.
But by far, suicide is the greatest failure. When you kill yourself, you never give yourself the opportunity to grow, to get stronger, to write a great story with your life, and to experience hope and love from people in your life. You are worth so much more than just being a quitter.

Jordyn wrote: “Some people have suicidal thoughts because they want to escape the isolation, pain, and rejection from the environment surrounding them. Others simply feel they have reached a state of loneliness and depression in their lives to the point where their thoughts become so negative, they can’t find any other reason to live. They would rather not confront it because of the fear of hurt that comes along with it, than confront it to rebuild their lives. I feel that when you go through times of depression and think about committing suicide, God is there by your side. He will not abandon you. It is only a matter of whether you reach out to Him through prayer that you will be free from these thoughts.”

There are so many healthy ways to deal with pain and hurt. Even though the road to healing may be long and hard, it’s a much better road to take than the shortcut of suicide. Amanda agrees there’s always another option besides suicide: “Just because you get into a sticky situation or face a problem does not mean you have to commit suicide just to get out of the situation!”

God has made you very strong person and you will get through this.

Whatever you are going through right now is only temporary. It will pass. It may be difficult and possibly the most challenging thing you’ve ever been through, but God has made you very strong person and you will get through this. I promise.

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Simple Ways To Overcome Depression And Sadness

Depression can be debilitating and is very different from just feeling unhappy. Usually, there is a reason for unhappiness such as being rejected or not getting the job you wanted. Depression is a pervasive feeling. It’s almost as if you are in a black tunnel with no light. Hope disappears and the things you used to find enjoyable become a chore. Even winning the lottery would not snap someone out of depression and it is never a good idea to tell someone who is depressed to sort themselves out and pull themselves together. Unfortunately, it isn’t that simple, but there are ways to alleviate the symptoms of depression.

1. Practice Mindfulness

A depressed mind tends to mull over all that is wrong and worries unnecessarily about all the negative possibilities that may emerge in the future. This negative thought cycle reinforces misery and is not helpful in managing to overcome depression. Mindfulness involves focusing on the present moment and is a skill that needs to be practiced. More often than not, our brains are full of thoughts and focusing on the present moment seems unnatural for our minds. Practice on engaging your senses in the moment. Focus on touch, taste, sight, sound and smell. Engaging the senses leaves less time for worry.

2. Listen to Upbeat Music

I have always thought of music as food for the soul. An upbeat tune can change an atmosphere instantly and create a more positive vibe. Listening to upbeat, happy music alters brain chemistry and can improve your mood.

3. Use Touch

Science shows that touch therapies can help some people overcome depression, lower the stress hormone cortisol and increase the feel-good hormone oxytocin. Therapies to consider include acupuncture, acupressure, massage,and reflexology.

4. Include Omega 3 Fatty Acids in Your Diet

Research has shown that depressed people often lack a fatty acid known as EPA. Participants in a 2002 study featured in the Archives of General Psychiatry took just a gram of fish oil each day and noticed a 50-percent decrease in symptoms such as anxiety, sleep disorders, unexplained feelings of sadness, suicidal thoughts, and decreased sex drive. Omega-3 fatty acids can also lower cholesterol and improve cardiovascular health. Get omega-3s through walnuts and oily fish like salmon or tuna.

5. Stop the Negative Self Talk

Depressed people tend to see the world in a negative way. When things go wrong they blame themselves and when they go right, they put it down to luck. Depression reinforces self doubt and feelings of worthlessness. Monitor your inner negative talk and make allowances for this type of thinking by reminding yourself that your thinking is that of a depressed person, not a healthy functioning person. Don’t take your thoughts seriously when you are feeling low. Acknowledge the thoughts but this doesn’t mean you have to believe them. Keep perspective.

6. Bide Your Time

Accept that your mental state is not entirely balanced. During depression, we tend to see the negatives in everything and find it harder to be balanced about what is going on. Gently remind yourself that you are tuned into the ‘negativity channel’ and don’t listen to your thinking. It is definitely distorted when you are depressed. This idea alone can provide some comfort when the world appears bleak. It won’t last forever. Remind yourself that change is constant and that you won’t always feel this way. Be patient and do your best to look after yourself in the meantime. Eat well and get a decent amount of sleep. Say to yourself “This shall pass”.

7. Distract Yourself

If possible, do your best to distract yourself from over thinking. Your thoughts are your enemy when depression sets in. Play with a pet or go for a walk. Read a book if you are able to concentrate or finish a puzzle. Do anything that takes your mind off your fears and worries. Keeping busy is an effective way to overcome depression.

8. Use More Light

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is known for causing low mood over the winter months when there is less sunlight. Invest in a sunlamp – a 300 watt bulb within three feet for 20 minutes three times a day can help. SAD symptoms can include problems sleeping, anxiety, depression, irritability, fatigue, apathy and loss of libido and using light can help to overcome depression and these other symptoms.

9. Try Cognitive Therapy

Cognitive therapy can be extremely useful in counteracting depression and is based on the principle that certain ways of thinking can trigger certain health problems, such as depression. The counselor helps you to understand your current thought patterns and identify any harmful or false ideas and thoughts that you have that can trigger depression or make it worse. The aim is to change your ways of thinking to avoid these ideas as well as help your thought patterns to be more realistic and helpful.

10. Write in a Journal

A journal can work in two ways. Use it to write down fears and worries. Sometimes, having an outlet in this way can be soothing and ease your mind. Another good way to use a journal (I prefer this way) is to write at least five things down every day that you are grateful for. This forces us to think more positively and can help to remind us that things are never that bad. In a gratitude journal, you can write about anything that happened in the day that made you feel appreciative. A stranger smiling at you, the sun shining..anything positive will do!

11. Connect with Friends

This can be one of the hardest things to do when feeling depressed but it is one of the most rewarding activities. Force yourself to go out. Isolating oneself from others may seem a good idea but put a limit on it and then get out there again. This can have a huge positive effect on your mood.

12. Get Enough Sleep

Sleep and mood are closely connected. Inadequate sleep can cause irritability and stress, while healthy sleep can enhance well-being. Studies have shown that even partial sleep deprivation has a significant effect on mood.Take steps to ensure adequate sleep will this will lead to improved mood and well-being. The quality of your sleep directly affects the quality of your waking life, including your mental sharpness, productivity, emotional balance, creativity, physical vitality, and even your weight. No other activity delivers so many benefits with so little effort so aim for between 7.5 and 9 hours sleep per night.

13. Forgive Others

When we hold a grudge, we are the ones that feel the anger. The person whom we are angry with is probably merrily going about their business completely oblivious to your feelings. Don’t allow others to have this power over you. They have may have caused you grief in the past, try not to allow that grief to continue – it only affects you, not them. Find a way to forgive – they are not worthy of your time. Lighten the emotional load and you will improve your mood and help you to overcome depression.

14. Exercise

Regular exercise has benefits for helping to overcome depression. Exercise releases endorphins which improve natural immunity and improve mood. Besides lifting your mood, regular exercise offers other health benefits, such as lowering blood pressure, protecting against heart disease, cancer and boosting self-esteem. Experts advise getting half an hour to an hour of moderate exercise, such as brisk walking at least three to four times per week.

15. Don’t give up

Depression can make you want to hide away from the world and disappear. It’s okay to take some time out but give yourself a time limit and then do something productive to improve your mood. Depression can be well managed (I know this from personal experience) and there can be a wonderful life beyond depression. Hang in there and keep the faith.

Although the above suggestions can be effective, depression that perseveres should be investigated further and seeing a Doctor to chat over any symptoms is a step in the right direction.

How To Make Friends With Strangers

1. Take a deep breath. If someone comes up to you and strikes up a conversation, don’t be afraid. Usually, they just want to talk to you. Alternatively, if you see someone who looks approachable sitting alone in a terminal or next to you on a train, relax and ask them how their day is going. The worst that can happen is that they’ll prefer not to converse with you. Regardless, you’ll know from the get go if the person is someone you will want to talk to.
2. Know how you want to come across to others. What kind of person are you? This step is a little more intrinsic than the others, but it is extremely important to think about before talking to anyone. For example, after just one good conversation, most people figure out that I am an adventurous, chipper young girl who loves travel and photography. Whether you are the same way or completely different know yourself and know how you want to portray yourself.

3. Keep an open mind. Don’t limit yourself to only speaking to a certain group of people or about certain topics. Don’t limit your conversation to only a few minutes. Let your talk go wherever it goes. Sometimes conversations can evolve from one topic to something completely different. I once started a conversation with a professor that shifted from schoolwork to zombies within just a few minutes. With an open mind, these conversations can go virtually anywhere.
4. Listen and ask questions. This is one of the most important rules of conversation in general: listen more than you talk. In the spirit of an old friend, Dale Carnegie (author of How to Win Friends and Influence People), make the person feel important by asking questions and listening intently. Be engaged in the conversation and be genuinely interested in the person. This will help you forge a stronger connection with that person and will show them that you respect their opinions and their time. Plus, people always have really memorable and unique stories to tell.
5. Smile. The best way to look approachable is simply to smile. I have a rule where I smile at people who I make eye contact with. I smile to myself as I listen to music and as I read books. Basically, I’m always smiling. And it works — when I smile at someone, they almost always smile back or at least acknowledge me. Think about it: you’ll be more likely to strike up a conversation with someone who looks cheerful rather than someone who looks angry or upset. Stick a smile on your face and others will do the same.
6. Ask their name. If you get to the point where you’re talking like old friends, ask the person’s name! This makes the person feel important and gives the impression that you are interested to know more about them. People will be more likely to be open with you if they feel that they are appreciated and respected. By asking a person’s name, you take the next step for forging a stronger and more long-term friendship. If, by the time you part ways, you feel that you’d like to reconnect with that person, offer your email address or Facebook address. Always use your judgment, but don’t be afraid. I am Facebook friends and email contacts with many people I met on the road.
7. Be unique. One thing I have that often helps me strike up conversations with people while traveling is my ukulele. Small but snazzy, this little instrument is an easy conversation starter and an entertainment source. People often approach me and ask, “Is that a GUITAR?!” I always chuckle and reply, “no, actually, it’s a ukulele.” Thus, the conversation begins. The moral here is that having something unique or having characteristics that stand out will make you a more memorable person to talk to. Even if it’s not something tangible, like a passion for wildlife or an amazing knowledge of the stock market, if it’s something you love then it will shine through.
And, as always, trust your gut. If something doesn’t seem right or a person doesn’t want to talk to you, don’t push it. Don’t be afraid to stop a conversation if it is starting to make you uncomfortable. Don’t be afraid to withhold information about yourself. Also, avoid talking about controversial or inflammatory subjects — you never know what topics people will react unfavorably toward.
The bottom line of conversing with strangers is that it is an amazing way to learn about the world, to hear a different perspective, and to expand your horizons. Through my interactions, I have found that the rewards from these friendships have been invaluable to my travel experiences. I have met people from all walks of life with all kinds of passions. Listening to these quirky, unique, and adventuresome stories while traveling has left me with lifelong friends, solid communication skills, and an uplifting and astounding dose of inspiration.

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